“Good relationships don’t just happen. They take time, patience, and two people who truly want to be together.” Yes, relationships are the most wonderful and priceless possessions in life. But, it’s not always a cakewalk to have ideal, picture perfect relationships around. Sometimes, you’ll need rational tips to endeavor loving relationships.
A lot of us misinterpret the meaning of a loving relationship. Usually, people think that it’s the connection that they make with their better halves. But, that’s not always the boundary. A relationship is a bond of trust between any two persons, be it siblings, friends, daughter-mother, or anyone else. Life becomes super easy and heaven like if you have relationships you can cherish. Else, it turns impossible. Relationships can be dramatically confusing at times.
Check Out These Amazing Tips For Warm And Loving Relationships.
1. Value each other’s needs equally
The first most crucial pillar is being self aware. It is important to first understand what you need from yourself and the relation that you are in. Understand their needs as you do for your own needs, look after your own “Self” and then them too; take time out for yourself and at the same time for them too.
2. Give time and attention to your relationship
Relationship is like delicate glass that needs immense care. Every relation is of different nature, and there are situations that are difficult to face. You should understand when to and when not to take a strong stand for yourself and for the relationship. On one hand, you have to tell them when something bothers you and address the problem. On the other hand, you don’t have to let them down.
3. Have control on your emotions
The most difficult thing to do is to not REACT. As soon as we are hurt, angry or frustrated we project it. It is tough to hold back when there is a rush of these strong emotions pushing you to the edge. Generally, our initial reaction does not reflect how we feel, we tend to overreact.
When you feel a strong emotion, try to sit it for a while. Don’t use it or run from it – just feel it. Observe your feelings before acting on them, only then you can minimize the negativity. Process, analyze, and deal with your feelings before putting them straight out, communicate in a way that inspires others to stay open instead of shutting down.
4. Don’t blame, address the cause behind a problem
If you’re not happy with yourself, you tend to dislike other things. You reflect your inner self. In short, when you feel unhappy, it is easy to find something wrong in a relationship as well. Then, you tend to blame the other for what you are feeling – which means you are giving them the control. That is the wrong approach. Address the root cause. It’s better to ask yourself if there is something else that is bothering you instead. You may find there’s something underlying. Take responsibility for the problem and you have power to create a solution.
5. Give people the benefit of the doubt
Doubt your doubts before you doubt your faith. It is easy to assume that your friend meant to hurt you by flaunting their money, to make you feel inadequate. But, this might not be true, it probably is all just in your head. People who care about you would always want you to feel good, unless they are wrapped in their problems. Try seeing the best in people, leave the rest. Things will fall into place, time is the best healer. When you assume the best, you inspire it.
6. Confront Clearly
Relations can be confusing. It is easy to be bothered on the smallest of things. When something bothers, the right thing to do is confronting the problem with compassion. Confront, don’t attack! Because when you attack, it is a natural instinct for someone to get defensive. There is no black and white in a relationship. Both need to try and meet in the middle. Show them you understand where they’re coming from, and they’ll be willing to see your side.
7. It’s okay to be vulnerable at times
You can be vulnerable in a relationship at times such as while accepting your mistake, expressing your feelings or admitting your weakness. It is okay to vulnerable when you’re with the one you love. Be your true self and allow the other one to do the same without letting fear and judgment tear it down. Jimi Hendrix truly said, “When the power of love overcomes the love of power the world will know peace.”
8. Be mindful of projecting
This is again about self-awareness. In psychology, projecting refers to denying your own traits and then ascribing them to the outside world. Acknowledge your flaws, if you don’t, you will see them in others. If you see something negative, question yourself if it is even true. It might not be, but if it is, identifying it can help create peace in that relationship.
9. Maintain boundaries
There is a thin line of respect that should not be crossed in any relation. When lines are crossed, relationships lose their identity and can get confusing. You have to love and respect yourself enough to acknowledge what you need, and speak up.
10. Enjoy their company more than their approval
When you desperately seek for approval, your relationship becomes all about what they do for you, how often they strike your ego, how well they cheer you up. This creates an unbalanced relationship and drains the other person. Instead of focusing on what you can get from a person, focus on enjoying your time together. Oftentimes the best thing you can do for yourself and someone else is let go and give yourself permission to smile.